I waltzed around bragging for 27 years that I had not been stung by a bee for 27 years. I am uproud of the pride with which I did this, because practically the next week, a bee flew into my bike helmet and stung me on the ear. And just when I thought it was safe to go back to my bee-boasting, I stood on my lot yesterday chatting with James, felt a pinch on the back of my knee, squished the pincher with a reflexive snap, and spent the next four hours trying to ease the sting with a combination of arnica gel and Cabernet-Sauvignon.
Not so easily alleviated the sting issued by the neighborhood anti-welcome wagon brigade, a committee of two who took it upon themselves to visit James while he was knee-deep in rebar and inform him, in great detail, how sad it is that this new house is taking the place of the lovely, green, empty lot that they evidently thought of as their own little private slice of weed-infested Eden. Never mind that this project is 1) James’s first ever lead construction project; 2) my future home and the first house I’ve established on my own, and 3) the culmination of the talents, plans, and dreams of half dozen people. One woman’s idyll is another’s eyesore, apparently.
To be fair, things aren’t so pretty right now at 1510 17th, unless your idea of “pretty” is a hole in the ground, a silt fence, piles of dirt, yards of rebar, foundation forms, and a mishmash of cryptic neon paint markings, string, buckets, and junk (including this little red piece of crap wheelbarrow that someone just wheeled over and left on the property a couple weeks ago). In the eyes of this beholder, it goes way beyond pretty, all the way to full-on smoking hot. Jessica Alba hot. George Clooney hot. Matthew McConaughey-naked-on-the-beach hot. I’ve never seen so beautiful a pile of dirt and its accompanying hole in my life. I think you’ll agree, even if certain cranky neighbors whose window-crack views of the bay may or may not be obscured by my house don’t.
The hole, in all its glory (hee hee), is gradually disappearing, and the alleged view-blocking about to begin. I returned home yesterday to find the street between Larrabee and Donovan clogged with equipment—trucks and trailers, a cement mixer and a pumper. I parked and disembarked the Vanbulance, clapped my hands, and ran across the street in my school clothes to watch as the footings were poured. I destroyed my nylons and got my pumps dirty, but it was totally worth it to watch as the foundation of my future home began to take shape. The event wasn’t even ruined when I stood near a neighbor who was watching the pour and said to his four-year-old daughter, “These big machines are really noisy, huh?” and she replied, “Yeah. This is what we have to listen to ALL day.”
Across the street, my less-amnst-encumbered and more welcoming neighbors, the ones providing me with a home base(ment), a mailing address, and a place to store my voluminous collection of rubber stamps and crafting supplies, celebrated the progress with smiles and excitment. "It's not just negative space now," Tom said, referring to the disappearing hole. "It's a positive one!." And I thought, yeah, it is. Despite the bees...and the b-words.
Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex by Mary Roach NEW 4/10/08 Mary Roach is the funniest science writer on the planet, and her latest book about the history of sex is proof positive. In Bonk, Roach relays the strange history of sexual research and its findings in prose that is candid, funny, and informative. I've never read such a thorough, intelligent book about such a fascinating topic--and I encourage anyone who has even the slightest interest in human sexuality (and let's be honest here) to enjoy what Roach has discovered and exposed. Fascinating, reassuring, educational, and highly entertaining.
Not Quite What I Was Planning: Six-Word Memoirs by Writers Famous and Obscure NEW 3/27/08 The memoir has taken a beating in recent years, with the "true" stories of various writers being exposed as fabrications. The editors of Smith Magazine, an online journal, have remedied this by challenging writers to tell their life stories in just six words. Think it can't be done? Guess again. This fun collection is perfect to keep in your car for those long waits at lights.
Flushed: How the Plumber Saved Civilization by Hodding W. Carter NEW 3/2/08 Some folks think bathroom reading is a crass pasttime, but I personally appreciate a well-placed basket of books and magazines. Hodding Carter doesn't discuss the porcelain library in his book, but he does talk about how this space is sacred--how the bathroom, and its accoutrements fundamentally alter the way we live. A history of the toilet, and plumbing in general, makes for a fascinating chronology of how humans have, and continue, to manage their biological functions in ways that serve themselves, and their environment, more effectivelt and safely.
Things I've Learned from Women Who've Dumped Me edited by Ben Karlin Just in Time for Valentine's Day!!! This very funny collection includes essays from some of the best-known names in humor writing, including Seattle's own Dan Savage and a number of TV writers and comedians. Among my favorites in the collection were Savage's article, "I Am a Gay Man," "A Dog is No Reason to Stay Together," by Damian Kulash, and Bob Odenkirk (of Mr. Show) 's "Nine Years is the Exact Right Amount of Time to Bed in a Bad Relationship."
The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz NEW 1/30/08 Reducing Choice: 1. Choose when to choose. 2. Be a chooser, not a picker--reflect on what makes a choice important and know when to spend time making a decision; avoid being passive in the face of overwhelming options. 3. Satisfice more and maximize less--learn to accept "good enough" and be happy with it, rather than always striving for The Best. 4. Think about the opportunity costs of opportunity costs--limit the amount of time spent thinking about the attractive features of the options we don't select. 5. Make your decisions nonreversible. 6. Practice an attitude of gratitude. 7. Regret less. 8. Anticipate adaptation--know that the excitement of new purchases will wear off, and prepare for it. It doesn't mean you made a bad choice. 9. Control expectations by minimizing the number of options you consider, being a satificer rather than a maximizer, and allowing for serendipity. 10. Curtail social comparison. Life is not a competitive sport. You don't win by having the coolest toilet. 11. Learn to love constraints.
The Year of Living Biblically by A.J. Jacobs NEW 12/20/07 Esquire writer A.J. Jacobs, whose last book, Know-It-All, chronicled his quest to read the entire Encyclopedia Britannica, has accomplished another unusual feat. In his new book, he reveals his experiences as a secular Jew attempting to live an entire year by following, as literally as possible, the edicts for behavior established in the Old Testament. The result? An often hilarious, frequently thought-provoking, and extremely enjoyable examination of religious belief and behavior, morality, and the strengths and weaknesses that make us human.
Escape by Carolyn Jessop NEW 11/26 After eighteen years of marriage to a polygamist member of the FDLS in Colorado City, thirty-five year old Carolyn Jessop fled her husband with her eight children to begin life anew outside the organization that threatened her life and happiness. As one of six of Merril Jessop's wives, Carolyn was subjected to abuse, infighting, and the neglect and mistreatment of her children by both Jessop and some of his wives. Her story, while not a literary masterpiece (to say the least) is nevertheless a riveting and extraordinary look into one of the most bizarre communities in modern America.
Skinny Bitch by Rory Freedman and Kim Barnouin Touted as a "non-nonsense, tough-love guide for savvy girls who want to stop eating crap and start looking fabulous," this is far from your ordinary diet guide. The authors are both former models, but Barnouin has a Masters degree in nutrition, and the book is loaded with research about what to eat, what not to eat, and why. Their main suggestions--eliminate meat and dairy are supported by lots of data, but the reading is never dry. The authors aim at a sassy, almost in-your-face, pull-out-the-stops guide to convince you that eating right is hard work but worth the effort.
Watching Baseball Smarter: A Professional Fan's Guide for Beginners, Semi-Experts, and Deeply Serious Geeks Zack Hample's guide to baseball is a funny, insightful overview of the sport for new viewers. In it, he offers a guide to pitches, plays, and strategies, as well as thorough glossary, lots of must-know trivia, and answers to important questions like "why do baseball players scratch themselves so much?" and "which positions are never played by lefties?" A must-read for anyone who loves baseball, is forced to watch it, or just wants some good lines for the staff room besides that old chesnut about the designated hitter rule.
Chuck Klosterman IV: A Decade of Curious People and Dangerous Ideas I just finished reading Chuck Klosterman's collection of essays, and I was sorry to turn the last page. Reading Klosterman, for me, is like going on a date with someone super funny, sassy, and smart, with the added benefit of not having to shave my legs first or put out afterward.